Lord knows you have the days where you question if you can ever even last another hour, with your spouse in the same room where everything down to the sound of their breathing is annoying, we have all been there. What you might not know is counseling can be preventative and isn’t just for the moments like these where you are ready to practically give up. Hopefully you are someone who intends to keep growing and learning about yourself, others around you, the growth of your community and city of the East Bay Area and the world as a whole. As we age, it is healthy to keep growing and not stay stagnant. This means learning about the way world is changing, learning from others around us and our relationships. Having a tool like counseling for your marriage is something to be used when you feel connected or when you don’t. Having a trained professional therapist help guide you through some sticky moments is always a breath of fresh air not having to figure it out on your own, but imagine the support and validation and the depth of love you can arrive at having that guided support in not only trouble shooting, but aiding the deepening of your love? Shedding light on some things that you didn’t know where there. Supporting vulnerability and contentedness. Solidifying the team mentality with your spouse. Plan a date night: Call me www.healinghappenstherapy.com to set an hour session, then go have dinner reservations downtown Oakland or Berkeley and oodle all over each other with the things you learned about how much you are loved!
Archives for April 2015
My perfect “health day.” Find below the ins and outs of my day from diet & exercise to mental & spiritual. I’m nothing but thorough, but I’m not perfect either. Try your best, and look to make your own day to day life more healthy, and keep some balance.
~Meditate 10 min (Yes, even with an 18 month old, I bought ear plugs and Husband takes over. Its 10 minutes people, you can do it!)
~Face “meds” and sunscreen (I used to struggle with horrible acne until I after gave birth, but I still use a lighter version of it and aging products too)
~Stretch (baby loves to do this with, me it hilarious.)
~Vega One chocolate shake with vitamins (Shake ingredients: 1/4 cup of water, one banana, 1/4 cup of frozen berries, one scoop of Vega.) This shake gives me all my veggies I need for the day- yes I said veggies. It’s also packed with protein and all the other wonderful stuff you need.
The vitamins that I take in general are: Multivitamin (Womans ultra mega), probiotic, omega 3, chewable baby asprin (good maintenance for the heart) and a folic acid (good for second baby prep!) Taking them with the shake helps me remember and its easier with a thick drink rather than water.
~Next breakfast a few hours later: Egg with sprouted protein bread, (its quick, easy, and healthy)
~Baby’s nap time: Elliptical time, and catch up on my recorded shows simultaneously. If nap is super long, I’ll throw in some Marketing work for my business then too.
~Get sunshine. (Great mental/ emotional booster, deep breaths and warm sun. Most of the time I’m out and about with the baby at Oakland or Berkeley parks anyways but I make sure I leave the house each day, even is it a walk around the block and I’m feeling like I don’t want to leave the house.)
~ Water 100 oz (Through the day I bring my 50 oz water bottle. Fill it up twice and then I know I’m done. Great for skin, and just health in general).
~Lunch: Salad with protein for lunch OR something completely different. HAHA! (This changes. I usually like a fresh light chicken salad but sometimes its french fry day. I just swap out a heavy meal for a light one at dinner.)
~If baby naps twice, I nap too! REST.
~Baby to bed. Shower. (I do dry body brushing right before shower too. Towards the heart, great for the lymphatic system and skin.)
~Cook dinner. (We have a chef send us weekly menus and once a week we shop for all the ingredients together. They are all healthy and a huge variety. Its fun and then I know I have everything I need for the whole week already in the house. It’s great!)
~Marketing for Private Practice (Once a day for about 30 min to an hour, either now or at a long baby nap time)
~Roll my hair (Yes this is important! – for me at least. I don’t have time to look great, with hair and make up. When I can roll my hair at night and have it curly in the morning the way I like it, it’s done and I feel more beautiful and more put together- who doesn’t want that?)
~Bed by 10 pm, or earlier if hubby and I want to “snuggle!” (I love my sleep. I get about 9 to 10 hours each night.)
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Sometimes we walk around our beautiful city, Oakland. We stroll by Lake Merritt and have to cross busy Harrison street to get there. I always feel just a little bit safer, warmer when my man holds my hand crossing the street. Take this and apply it to when are not feeling so lovey dovey. Even the smallest touch can help. The chemicals in our bodies react even if we don’t know it. Try talking and touching simultaneously. A hand on the small of the back, or facing each other with arms around each others waist. Even if you are sitting on the couch, remember to touch. Play with her hair, or place your hand on his knee. Even if nothing sexual arrives, this is connection and can lead to a loving gaze, a kiss, or a great conversation. Go ahead and try it! It’s pretty difficult to have an argument while holding hands!