Are you spending all or a part of the holiday season alone?
Being alone during the holidays carries an unpleasant stigma. But spending this time by yourself doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. Transform your solitary holidays into exactly the precious alone time you always longed for.
Choose your personal kind of solitude and choose your company, exactly the way you want.
The value of alone time
Solitude used to be valued. Artists, philosophers and monks made solitude the core of their lives. Explorers and adventurers went out alone to encounter the world.
If you value your alone time, you also value yourself. The one person who will always be with you. Be your own best friend.
Here are a few tips for beating the ‘lonelys’ and have a great time during the holiday season.
Quiet celebrations alone
- Boost holiday cheer
Fill your house with flowers and holiday decorations.
Enjoy the festive transformation and the festive mood they bring.
Make your favorite food. And this year, you don’t have to cater to anyone else’s tastes. If you like exotic appetizers or four desserts in a row, you can indulge whatever eating pleasure you want.
- Embrace health and beauty
Celebrate your body!
Holiday time you spend alone is the perfect opportunity for enjoying all the little luxuries you usually never have time for.
That hair treatment, the skin masks, and the long deep soak in your bubble bath will all make you look and feel better.
And what about finally doing all the stretching and solo yoga sessions you always promised yourself? What about dancing around the room or singing loudly along to your favorite songs?
Why not leave the house for a long walk or a long run? On the actual holidays, there will be less traffic and less pollution to contend with at parks like Oakland’s Middle Harbor Shoreline Park or Joaquin Miller Park.
- Do “back burner” projects
Celebrate your house and home. Finally start and/or finish all those renovation and decoration projects you always wanted to do. Begin the new year with a beautiful new home.
- Indulge creativity
Solitude has always been celebrated as the source of creativity.
Choose your art form and let yourself be inspired, without the usual time constrictions. Paint, write, play the piano. Create a world all for yourself.
- Establish individual holiday traditions
This is your chance to create the holiday traditions you always wanted. Spend time planning, and take a lot of care with them.
These new traditions can be the foundation of many beautiful solitary holidays to come, or included in future holiday traditions enjoyed with the company you choose down the line.
- Celebrate your life so far
Make a list of all the things in your life you want to celebrate. Make a slide show or a video clip. Connect with yourself.
- Welcome the coming year
Make a new life plan.
Resist New Year’s resolutions that are full of ‘shoulds.’ Instead, map out the things most important in your life.
Choose your company
Being alone over the holidays doesn’t mean you can’t choose your company carefully.
You can volunteer at a charity. There you will meet new friends who all share the same passion. Volunteer for an hour, for a day, for a week. The choice is yours.
- Coffee house company
You can also enjoy ‘solitude in public’ by dropping into the few cafes and bars that are open during the holidays. They will be welcome hosts to like-minded people. You can engage as much or as little as you want.
- Performance relaxation
You could go to a concert or a live theatre performance. You could join a cinema marathon. Or you could just watch an entire season of your favorite TV series.
- Learning environments
You could spend one or two of your holiday days joining a group of strangers to learn a new skill or explore new knowledge.
- Long distance connections
The holidays are the ideal time to nurture long-distance connections.
Write a few emails to people you don’t see very often. Reconnect with friends and relatives far away. You could even invite company into your house by making a few appointments by talking to far away friends on Skype.
Celebrate the holidays by celebrating yourself!