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How Micro and Macro Nutrients Combat Hidden Sugar & Help Weight Loss

January 31, 2017 by kellymontgomerymft

As you read this, are you craving chocolate? Are you always just one pasta dish away from the next diet? Do you get nervous when your candy stash gets low?

Sugar cravings and sugar addiction are often related to deficiencies and imbalances in your nutrition. Unfortunately, the typical American diet hides sugar in foods you’d never expect to find it. Condiments and sauces, granola, and yogurt, canned fruit and dried fruit, fruit juices, and even sandwich bread are all processed and infused with sugar to accommodate our super-sweet sensibilities. When it’s all said and done, much of the American population ingests more than 150 pounds of refined sugars every year! Sugar also doesnt just make us fat. Sugar creates inflamation, and inflamation can lead to disease.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

With the right kind of food, in the right combinations, you can change the way you eat, and eventually, how much you weigh (high five)! Here’s how micro and macro nutrients help you combat hidden sugar and assist weight loss:

Macronutrients

Macronutrients are proteins, fat, and carbohydrates – the bulk of our diet. They provide energy and sustenance for our bodies. Without macronutrients, we could not stay alive.

According to the United States Department of Agriculture, the USDA offers official recommendations for three necessary types of macronutrients. If you don’t get the mix right, it’s really difficult to stay healthy.

These official recommendations are:

  • Carbohydrates 50%
  • Protein 10 – 35 %
  • Fats 20 – 35%, with less than 10% coming from saturated fats

Also, it’s important to take into account the amount of exercise you fit in daily. Get ready to do your rounds at Oakland lake Merritt or Lincoln Square!

Additionally, your intake of macronutrients determines how many calories you consume. And calories, you know, control your weight. What you may not know is that the mix of macronutrients you ingest also has a huge effect on sugar cravings.

  • Most important, stay away from additives. They artificially increase your appetite and impact calorie consumption. Sugar is one of the worst culprits. Hidden in almost all pre-prepared products, it is not always labeled clearly. Furthermore, it really just piles on calories, without adding anything in terms of nutrition.
  • Also, choose the right kinds of carbohydrates, such as complex sugars. This goes a long way in preventing binges on donuts and ice cream. In addition, diets high in protein can accelerate weight loss as well.
  • Other aspects affecting macronutrient intake include how you space out your meals (some people fast one day a week, others eat up to 6 small meals a day) and general portion control.

Basically, try to eat your macro nutrients in as pure a form as possible. Visit the oakland or Berkeley Farmer’s Market where farmers bring in fresh products and you can eat directly from farm to table. Or try Oakland’s People’s Grocery to find healthy products for every budget.

Micronutrients

Micronutrients are vitamins and minerals. Many functions of the body’s organs rely on them. Therefore, vitamins in the right combination and levels are essential for the immune system and overall wellbeing.

Micronutrients occur in our food in very small amounts, but small amounts are all our bodies need to function well. Not produced in your body, they must be obtained from a healthy diet or supplements. The following minerals are particularly important for maintaining a healthy weight:

Chromium

Chromium is part of the Glucose Tolerance Factor which allows insulin to function correctly in your metabolism. A deficiency results in intense sugar cravings.

Obtaining chromium from food sources like asparagus, cheese, lean meats and whole grains is the safest option. Too much chromium interferes with your blood sugar levels. Consult your doctor before supplementing if you have kidney damage or take medication.

Vanadium

Vanadium helps balance your insulin levels by blocking the excess glucose in your fat cells. Make sure you have adequate vanadium intake from parsley, beer, mushrooms, wine, and other products.

If you are supplementing, check with your doctor first for possible interference with your blood tissue.

Magnesium

Magnesium deficiency can create very intense sugar cravings as well. Every cell in your body needs magnesium. It helps stabilize glucose levels, insulin production, and dopamine, the ‘happy’ chemical in your brain. All of which contribute to weight loss and management.

Eat plenty of spinach, nuts, brown rice and soybeans to meet your magnesium needs.

All in all, if you feel you need a candy bar right now, your cravings and weight gain may have their roots in nutrient deficiencies instead of a lack of willpower. Its all connected, so if your not feeling well, try to address it from every angle. 

So, head to the kitchen and cook yourself a healthy meal, rich in macro and micronutrients. Reach out to your physician or a nutritional expert regarding supplements that work well. You can find help with supplement reccomendation and purchases through Healing Happens Therapy.

Your body is telling you something. Listen up, feed it well.

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Convenient Counseling: The Benefits of Virtual Therapy

January 17, 2017 by kellymontgomerymft

Life is short. Time is precious.

If you are suffering, you want to take care of it. As soon as possible. You want to make the most of your life and give the best of yourself to your family and friends.

Counseling is the most effective way to address your issues, grow, learn coping skills, and improve your life satisfaction.

But who has the time?

Time waits for no one.

If you are like me, you are probably very busy all the time. And some activities simply cannot be done ‘off-site’.

Your body must be present for exercise at the gym or your training group for the Oakland Running Festival. Like many of us in the Bay area  you may spend a lot of time on the daily commute. Perhaps you are routinely committed to trips on BART or stuck on Highway 24 at least twice a day.

All that means is that a visit to the therapist’s office after work, however useful to your recovery, can be too much at the end of a long day. It can add yet another hour to the commute or take away from your personal time. You don’t need timing your therapy to add to your stress.

Fortunately, you no longer have to travel to your therapist’s couch. Use your own!

There is a more convenient way of tending to your mental health that requires no commute at all. You can do it from the safe familiarity of your home, in your favorite chair. All without running into other people you may or may not know.

It’s called ‘Virtual Therapy’.

Virtual Therapy – Convenient Counseling at its best

Three recent, large-scale studies have shown that there is no difference in the effectiveness of online therapy compared to traditional face-to-face therapy. One of these studies was done at the famous Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, the others come from the University of Zurich and Ontario, Canada.

Virtual therapy delivers, not just in terms of convenience, but also in terms of outcome.

How did they think of that?

It all started with crisis intervention phone lines, like the 24-hour crisis line of Alameda County, which still takes many calls from people every day. Those lines are set up for immediate help: any time you need to speak to someone, a trained volunteer will be there to listen to you. They provide such a vital service to our community. Virtual therapy simply takes the idea a step further.

How does it work?

With the development of technology, it is now possible to have your entire individual therapy session online – via a video link such as Skype or FaceTime, but for theraputic use using a Hippa compliant secure system.

Wherever you are, you will be able to see and hear your therapist – as long as you have adequate Wi-Fi. Generally, your basic Oakland internet service or cell phone plan would be up to the task.

Apart from the fact that you are not actually in the same room, virtual therapy works the same way as face-to-face counseling. You and your therapist can engage in a session and talk to each other normally. You can see each other’s body language and facial expressions. From there, you build a therapeutic relationship as if you were seated in the same room.

Flexibility and accessibility are key

Virtual therapy is ‘portable’. The mobile aspect of this mental health service is extremely helpful. You can have a session with your counselor from everywhere and anywhere. Your hotel room on a business trip, your villa on the beach, and even your parked car are counseling sites if the need arises.

Some clients like to mix it up. You have options. You could make a few initial appointments for sessions face-to-face. Then, make the rest of your therapy happen online.

Also, virtual therapy also allows you and your therapist to connect at ‘odd’ times. Meeting during your lunch break or early in the morning or late at night may now be feasible.

Physical distance and inconvenient hours no longer prevent you from seeking therapy? Feel better now. Virtual therapy is another way counseling can help you, whatever your circumstances. Call or message (wink*) your therapist and find out if virtual therapy is for you.

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How to Talk to Your Children about Race Relations

January 3, 2017 by kellymontgomerymft

Race relations are part of daily life in Oakland as much as anywhere else in our country. We can address them in the way we live our lives and how we interact with other members of our common community.

But sometimes, the darker side of race relations in the US becomes frightening, particularly for children.

The history of race in America is also full of violence and death. We need to educate our kids so the future can be different, but we also need to protect them from psychological trauma.

Here are a few suggestions regarding how to talk to your children about race relations without scaring them:

  • Positive stories

Some of the most iconic stories about American race relations end in tragedy. The story of Martin Luther King is a prime example. But there are ways of telling Dr. King’s story and teaching his pivotal historic message in an age appropriate way.

Focus on his ideas and his ability to engage people of all races, inspiring them to create change.

Books and media can help you to introduce Dr. King and his ideas to young children. For example,“The Story of Martin Luther King Jr,” by Johnny Ray Moore tells the story of Dr. King. It outlines his life as a young boy when he starts to understand racial injustice and begins his journey of change. The book doesn’t mention his death at all.

  • Find teaching moments

Race relations happen everywhere. Look out for moments when your child encounters different racial communities. Show them how to engage.

Listen to your kid’s stories from school and the playground. Discuss racial comments and incidents of discrimination with them. Point out positive moments and emphasize positive change.

  • Teaching through community

Studies show that Oakland is one of the most ethnically and racially diverse cities in the US.  Find and engage with these varied, respectful communities. Make them part of your child’s daily life. This is the most powerful teaching you can give them.

Diversity and respect become normal as they become the baseline of your child’s experience.

  • Respond appropriately to your child’s lack of knowledge

If your child brings home a negative racial comment or repeats a racial stereotype that they may have heard in the media, don’t overreact. Most importantly, don’t scare your child by shaming them.

Instead, stay curious. Ask where these ideas originated and help your child understand why they are incorrect. If necessary, support them in standing up for themselves with other kids.

  • Monitor media consumption and address media messages openly.

Don’t abandon your child to unfiltered messages. Don’t avoid difficult questions. If a scary racial incident is present everywhere in the media, and your child is troubled by it, talk to them about their fears.

Explain the situation using age appropriate language and help them understand. Make sure they feel personally protected by their parents and caregivers.

  • Meet your children where they are.

Don’t bring up scary racial events indiscriminately but do answer questions honestly. Acknowledge that bad things can happen, but take time to put them in perspective as well.

  • Encourage culturally diverse events with your children.

Nurture an open-minded attitude. Introduce them to your own friends and families from different racial backgrounds.

  • Be a role model

Kids learn mostly by observing and imitating their parents. One positive action in race relations is worth more than thousands of words.

Show your kids how you deal with race and show them how you deal with fear. That is the best way to help them in the present and prepare them for the future.

Keep in mind, talking about race relations is an ongoing series of conversations. Don’t pack too much into one single discussion. As your kids grow up, talk often and learn together.

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