I love this article http://www.people.com/article/jennifer-lopez-cover-story-newly-empowered about how loving ones self is paramount to having a successful relationship. Often times the fear we have can stop us from growing. Usually that fear is only kinda scary and challenging but it can feel really big, like it might even destroy us! However, with some bravery and help getting there (therapy) you realize pretty quickly its manageable. You then are able to grow and have a good foundation to then seek out another’s love and be able to know how to relate to one another in a mature and stable way. If you have found yourself in a pattern of failed relationships, give me a call and lets figure it our together to get you to your goals of having a fulfilling life!
The new year provides a fresh start in to finding ourselves, and making healthy choices and also, sometimes it takes more than that. Loosing weight is hard. Loving ourselves with true honor and respect and knowledge of health for longevity is even harder if we are a stranger to it. The key to our (fill in the blank) weight loss, is just that, a kinder deeper self love. A self knowledge that thrives on respect and knowledge of how we want to survive and thrive. Learning to be compassionate with all aspects of yourself whether you are changing your lifestyle or taming an eating disorder or tackling the desire to loose weight and live your best life- but it can be done.
1. Notice your negative self talk (would you talk to your grandma or a child like that?)
2. Re fame your relationship with yourself by adding compassion and tenderness.
3. Live your truest life. Are you acting authentically and in alignment with your best self?
4. Find support. Get help and enjoy the cheerleading you let, let it fuel you.
Check out Andie Mitchell’s story: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/andie-mitchell-/was_me_all_along_b_6423350.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women
The Holidays are upon us. What the heck happen to us when we go home or gather around our family members we don’t see very often? Why does my mom still insist on having “the kids” who are age range 35-45 to wear matching pajamas Christmas morning!? Do you find yourself acting differently, younger maybe, surprising yourself and how sensitive you might act? A lot of people find this troublesome during the Holidays. What I am speaking about is ROLES. Unconsciously we can revert back to our old roles (whether we are being cajoled into them “pajama pushing” or just fall into them on our own). For example: You can be a career professional, a husband a father and more…and still feel 10 years old around the dinner table with your family somehow. You might notice familiar or old roles in conversations or habits. Others might really want you to stay in old roles (its comfortable and familiar to them) and it might feel awful to you or give you a warm find memory (Snuggling in the PJ’s might not sound so bad sometimes if it makes mom happy.) you might just draw the line at the ones with little footies.
However it comes, notice it. Try and accommodate yourself for it in the ways that suit you. Be very kind with yourself and others. There can be a lot of emotion and family dynamics during the Holi-DAZE!
Keep your self humble in relation to others, you have no idea what is really going on unless you communicate.
Watch for the the 5 Friendship Threats.