It’s no secret—when you live in Oakland, going out on a date isn’t always the best way to keep your wallet happy. Getting dressed up and leaving the house might be the key ingredients you think of when you want to create a little romance, but it’s just as possible to spice things up when money is tight.
Why is carving out time for date night important? First and foremost, dates with your partner are fun. When you’re busy or stressed, every day can feel like a race to complete an endless to-do list. Maybe you start to lose sight of the bigger picture: the life you’re hoping to create with the person you love most is the reason you work so hard in the first place. Remembering you don’t have to be so serious all the time can be a big relationship buoy during financially stressful times.
Date night also matters because it makes your relationship a priority in your busy lives. You reconnect with your partner and wake up feeling a little more attuned to one another’s needs, interests, and emotions.
All of this is good news: having fun together, turning toward each other, and stoking the flame of interest are each relationship builders you don’t necessarily have to leave home to find.
Date Night at Home!
Get dressed up
While the candlelit atmosphere of a five-star restaurant or the glow of a rooftop bar can be part of the magic of a great date, the most romantic part of the evening is usually dressing up for each other.
Taking the time to clean up and put on your best clothes for your partner is an easy way to remind yourselves of your mutual attraction. Dressing up can feel like a light bulb going off—even after you’ve been together for countless years, courtship matters.
Break out the wine
Another part of a great date with your long-time partner is the chance to let go. Let your walls down. Relax. Celebrate how hard you’ve been working for your family. Ask each other open-ended questions: “what are your biggest dreams?” or “How do you feel about your job?”
You don’t have to get deep. Maybe you’re both tired and just want to make each other laugh. If money’s too tight, you don’t even need the wine; what matters is that you’ve cleared your schedules and set aside time just for yourselves.
Cook dinner together
Sometimes it’s hard to cook with your partner if you both have set ways of doing things in the kitchen. If you’ve tried and decided the best strategy is to cook at different times, that’s okay; but cooking together can be fun and rejuvenating.
When you’ve been together for years, you often fall into a comfortable routine. So try cooking something new for both of you!
Play a game
If you’re stressed about finances or work, it’s no easy feat to unwind. Playing a game together helps take your mind off the heavy stuff so you can focus on the next few hours you’ve reserved just for your partner. So play cards, break out a board game, or look up a new, simple game online.
Watch a movie
Sometimes what you and your partner need most is physical closeness. Try turning your living room into a make-shift movie theater. Make popcorn, cuddle up under your favorite blanket, and watch a movie you’ve both been wanting to see.
Be creative—and do what sounds fun to you!
There are lots of ways to have a great date at home. You can do a craft together, trade back massages, bake a cake, turn up the music and dance, or even look through old photo albums and talk about your favorite memories. What’s most important is that you’re enjoying your time together.
Think outside your normal routine. Get perspective, fresh air, fresh ideas. You LOVE this person. Create life together that has some levity and fun. If you need extra help on how to do this, come in for a few sessions on how to spice things up! Call 510-507-1763 or email email@example.com. Offices in Oakland and Berkeley areas.