What is an emotional affair?

An emotional affair is a breach of trust, a break in a verbal or written (marriage) agreement.  This can be over whether you are monogamous or when your spouse lies to you or keep things from you. Having someone trust and confide in another person over you and share intimate moments that were supposed to fall under your role can feel like an emotional affair.

Emotional intimacy and physical intimacy are different. However, they can be closely related.  Although not all relationships are monogamous especially here in our great Bay Area Oakland city, we all have attachments and in an emotional affair that is what is being threatened. The idea in most marriages or committed couples is that each other are the priority. They are supposed to be your “go to” person for times of happy, sad, need, and love.  There is nothing wrong with someone having friends and respected relationships with others.  We all need a healthy support system.  However, when the majority of the reliance is not with your spouse things begin to shift.

If your spouse is seeking out any of these from another person and it begins to feel out of balance, this could be a red flag. If you sense something is off please call to save your committed relationship. 510-507-1763 Kelly Montgomery, LMFT, www.healinghappenstherapy.com