I was sitting in Chitolita Linda on Telegraph in Oakland the other day and overheard a part of a couples conversation…it went something like this:

Her: It’s my money too.

Him: I work hard for it and want to spend it the way I want to.

Her: We have to agree on how to spend our money just because you make it doesn’t mean its a dictatorship!

Him: …(Silence)

Money is a huge factor in relationships.  There has to be a fluid conversation about money in your home.  In this scenario, the man shut down, and the woman doesn’t know how to validate. Sound familiar? Arguments around money are extremely dangerous for the marriage or relationship.  Couples counseling can help. Come in and learn how to listen and be heard and validate on another and come up with a way to communicate that work for the both of you.  Then, get on with your lives and eat some amazing fish tacos or the Cubano sandwich- they are to die for!