Ever feel like you are married and happy but honestly don’t feel the togetherness factor? Do you notice that you do your own thing and he does his, and you really have more separateness than togetherness?  There is something to be said about feeling like a team in your marriage.  Although it can be very healthy to have you individualism inside your marriage, too much of that can lead to a disconnect.  Feeling like a teammates can come from a lot of varied things.  Check your relationship out and see if you have any of these to gain more connection:

~A personalized or secret handshake

~Inside jokes

~A shared hobby or interest that you are active in

~A one-time project you can support on another in (like a diet or exercise program)

Even coming to therapy together is a great bonding experience. Try it out. Call 510-507-1763, visit me, Kelly Montgomery, LMFT in my office in Oakland at www.healinghappenstherapy.com.